[480 pages plus resources, notes and index, published 2019 by Simmon and Schuster. TED talk available.]
I didn’t finish reading this book, but I have to return it to the Library because there is a “Hold” on it. Good! Someone else is interested in this topic.
It’s difficult to talk about death. Even language becomes a problem. Euphemisms abound. The one I try hardest to avoid is to say that I “lost” someone. No! I didn’t “lose” my mother! She was not misplaced. She DIED, despite good care and strong family support.
It’s easy to be confused and overwhelmed when a loved one is dying. The time to read and plan is NOW, before a crisis hits. Like many self help books, this one begins with the authors’ accounts of their experiences with the topic at hand. Miller survived electrocution, and Berger helped care for her dying father for several years.
Chapter 1 (“Don’t Leave a Mess”) resonates with me and most of my friends. We are trying to get rid of stuff! Sometimes I envy people who have moved every 5 years. Surely they are doing better than I am at downsizing. This book also discusses the psychological messes some of us carry around.
Chapter 13 (“Hospital Hacks”) is for everyone, but especially those with little or no experience with contemporary hospitals. Everything changes rapidly in the medical field.
The authors describe their book as being for
- Anyone with a serious diagnosis
- Anyone who loves a person who is aging
- Anyone who wants to make his or her exit easier on their family
- Those who want to make the most of life NOW
Pretty much all of us, right?